To Dump or to be Dumped

I am so happy that dating is not a thing of my present. I would honestly be terrified wondering what to expect. Things are very different than they were when i grew up. During that time there was still a tiny bit of chivalry left, i am not sure what people call it now but it sure as heck is not chivalry. It seems like history repeats itself with people inheriting the mental acceptance of bad behaviors which ultimately result in bad relationship.

I have found that there is no age limit to the buffoonery. This blog topic is for my young men and young woman that find themselves asking WHY! I too have asked why several times in my lifetime and sometimes there was no answer there was just me taking action for my heart, soul and mental well being. Sometimes you just have to STOP

When in Doubt get out

When your body becomes engulfed in doubt and you find yourself starting to choke and you can't breath I say stop what you are doing and just think! Is this what you signed up for? If you are feeling more hurt, more confusion, more doubt, no sleep, your broke, your hungry, your confused and you feel unloved than AGAIN it is time to retreat, fall back, parlay, review and assess yourself before you are all the way broken.

Some people say that they can't be without the person that they are in a relationship with. If you feel like you can't live without someone, that's not true, it's codependency. Codependency is unhealthy. You don't feel like a whole and complete person, so you're trying to use someone else to fill the spaces in yourself.

Is it possible not to be able to live without someone?

There is no such things as not being able to live without someone. You can get dependent on someone after being with them for a long time, but there will always be someone that can provide you with the same things or better than the prior person.

Is jealousy a sign of love?

Many people glamorize jealousy by saying it's a sign of love. It's not! It's a sign of insecurity and reflective of seeing your partner as an object to be possessed. It's a negative emotion stemming from both desire and insecurity, but it is not love.

What is stonewalling in relationships?

Stonewalling is a persistent refusal to communicate or to express emotions. It is common during conflicts, when people may stonewall in an attempt to avoid uncomfortable conversations or out of fear that engaging in an emotional discussion will result in a fight.

Can a person be incapable of love?

If you feel incapable of love, you could be suffering from emotional deprivation disorder. They say love occurs to us naturally because you don't think to feel love, you just do. You will run into people in your lifetime that have never experienced true love.

How do you let go of someone that you love?

• Cut contact before you do anything else, and i mean anything else.

• Be with what your feeling

• Stop fantasizing about the good or the bad.

• Practice forgiveness for yourself and the person that you are dumping

• understand that you will have a grieving process and your body or mind may ache for the person but just say NO.

• Reach out for support from those that you love and those that love you.

• Take all the time you need to heal. People are addictions too.

• if you are crying ask yourself what you are crying for? Really answer yourself and tell you what you are missing from this relationship. Also keep in mind that if it were going in the right direction you would not be in tears, in doubt, confused or hurt.

A few steps towards healing a broken heart would be:

• Go through it, not around it, do not sugar coat the hurt, if you cover it no one can help you get through it.

• Detach yourself from anything that represents that hurtful relationship and reveal your independence to yourself again.

• Make a list of the things that makes you strong.

• Allow yourself to fantasize about the great things you will do out side of the toxic past.

• Help someone else it often helps us when we help others.

• Laugh and cry.

• Make a list of the things that you do not want in your life and make a list of all of the positive things that you want in and out of life. I wish you love and continued knowledge young ones. This message is also for the older ones that didn't get it when they were younger. Stay blessed and remember it's does take self love to give out true genuine love. It's never too late to learn to love yourself.

Blessings and Best Precious Unique