A Bed Made for Two

A Tiny Excerpt from the NEW Book - Coming soon

YOU, ME AND SHE makes three:

You see ladies and gents, the real question is did you start out like that? Did you start your relationship with two people both knowing about one another? If the answer is no than how can you expect a person to be alright with you trying to include an addition to what is probably already a strained relationship?

It’s funny though because you don’t start to ask questions of why can’t I love more than one person until you start to feel torn with your time or when decisions get harder and harder to make. It becomes too much for you to cope with trying to twist and turn in ways that would keep the drama to a minimum and only then do you decide that it’s time to tell your other half about your extracurricular activities however by that time circumstance has taken over and you are in what I would call big trouble.

It’s so easy to fall into temptation and you may even begin to believe that the grass is greener on the other side because it is as it appears on the top but we never think about what is underneath? The overwhelming process starts in your mind and you start to imagine yourself with this other person long term finding yourself weighing out the differences between the two people that you claim to love or "care for deeply". Unfortunately you can’t make a choice between the two because when you weigh them both out they are both what you want in a mate they just have different traits and different scents; fact still remains that you want them both.

Delusion

Your mind has tricked you into believing that once you have come clean with your admission of affection for someone else outside of your relationship that your conscious is clear and now you think that you can go about your day to day living without any questions or consequences you may want to think again. It does not stop here this is only the beginning to a new type of drama. Your consequence in this instance is to take a closer look at your mate who is looking at you like you have betrayed them and lost your everlasting mind.

Please understand that it does not end with your confession or your apology. Yes, you may have been honest with your mate but think about the time that it took for you to be honest with them and yourself! Think about the investment that you put into the other person.

Think about it people, the strain on your brain all stems from the trap that greed disguised as uncertainty has led you into; a trap that you ultimately built for yourself. After the person on the receiving end of your honesty actually processes what you have told them they may start wondering how much time it really took for you to be honest with them before you realized that you were falling for someone else.

Let's play this thing out for play sake

It's not as if you told your mate before things got hot and heavy between you and your other lover, you told them when it got to be too much for your mind frame to handle and the way you broach the subject of having an open relationship is insane.

An tiny example of insanity: A guy wakes up one day and calls out to his long time live in girlfriend while she is in the shower and he yells out that he thinks that he is in love with someone else, silence fills the room when he suddenly hears the shower water shut off, tripping over his own feet he rushes into the bathroom to clarify what he just said to his girlfriend knowing that he does not want to lose her, however so engulfed with the need to come clean about his extracurricular activities intending to talk about it as adults.

Like hell, her immediate response to that buffoonery was "Not on this day or at this time", everything else that came out of his mouth after those few disturbing words were spoken would have been better off delivered with captions, maybe than they would have been heard because outside of being broken she was also confused and I would imagine angry.

As I said earlier your mate will begin to play things, times, situations out in their head in the attempts to put two and two together, she or he will begin to imagine you in bed with someone else and before you know it they would have driven themselves crazy with the stinking thinking of you and your other lover.

Your mate may wonder:

• What they weren’t doing right

• They begin to wonder how many times your cell phone went right to voicemail when they were trying to reach you

• They begin to imagine you sending them to the voicemail with a smile on your face thinking about how much happier you were with your greener grass

• How did we get here and how did they let it go so far

• They think of the nights that you came home and were too tired to make love to them yet you had tons of energy to play with your play station and her buttons before you drifted off to sleep.

• They begin to realize that having emotions for someone takes time and attention so they begin to think of the time that you didn’t have for them Think about it! The hurts begins to show

• They may feel cheated and their mind will begin to focus on the days and nights that they were alone

• Did they even think about us and if they did what did they think about

Betrayal and the lack of trust go hand in hand. Face it people, if someone feels like you have done them wrong than know that it will be difficult for them to ever trust you again. Unless their heart is open to understanding that we are all human and are created with imperfections.

When there is no trust there is no relationship. So if you have an up and down relationship than it is not a good idea to invite anyone into your confusion. Work you the relationship that your in first.

We are only human, not super human most of us being born alone. Sharing is something that we learn as we grow up; it is not something that we are born with.

You see when it’s all said and done not everyone will see things the way that you see them; so if you are still wondering what the problem with loving more than one person is if you didn't start out that way than you need to pay closer attention and reread what you just read because the answer to your question is right there.

In order to have an open relationship work for you, you will need to start your relationship off that way with all parties in agreement and even then things tend to change, people change and the rules change when time and circumstance steps in.

Survey say that being in a triangle of a relationship is work, hard work on your mind, strain on your heart and pressure on your body. If you are in one you may find yourself spending your days and nights trying to please those around you and by the time you realize what has happened everyone around you is eating steak and you are settling for the bread with a spot of gravy, feeling like a fool, drained from trying to please everyone but you. Maybe consider one person being enough for the mind frame and dump the rest.

So be-loved reader I hope I have answered your question well enough for you to understand the consequences behind your actions when transparency is not in the relationship from the gate I wish you well; leaving you with a poem:

A Bed Made For Two

First you loved her, than you loved me. If only there was room for three!!!!

That’s something you would let be.

The bed made for two

That most times holds three.

You make love to me

but there is always three.

Never just you and me.

I don’t know she’s there

Not until I come across

a foreign hair.

There was more than just me massaging your muscle

It was more like me and her doing the invisible tussle.

She was wrapped around your love.

Nice and snug

Hiding beneath our sheets

Snug as a bug.

A long tress that couldn’t be mine

Nor in color or texture.

So now you know what I mean

when I say three.

You, me and three or should I say She? Either way there is always three!!!

A bed made for two that most times holds three.

First you love her than you love me.

If only the bed made for two could fit three…

Blessings and Best

Precious Unique