Is Mommy The Cover

Mommy Is His Cover!!!!! Hey guys and gals let's talk about those of you out there that have those undercover lovers for a minute.

But first as always a question: Have you ever dated a person that was married, then divorced and finally single move back in with his or her mamma? If your answer is yes, than let's raise RED flag number 1 for those of us that are still learning. I would wonder why a full grown person that is accustomed to having their own space; even with the family dynamics being changed a bit; revert back to mommy? Could it be for safety?

In some instances your undercover lover may even get or have a place of their own but do not think for one moment that they will invite you into their space because their son might pop in or their daughter may have a weekend there with her girlfriends; excuses will come up by the dozens anything to keep you out of their real life. One of the best excuses used is the work thing, a person that works multiple jobs, at different times on various days is hard to keep still. How can you keep up with a forever changing schedule?

People want what they want and have the tendency to bend the truth into loops and hoops in order to get it however time always catches up with us and sometime time runs out for the player because the played finally wakes up.

So this note is for the people out there wondering about the relationship that they think they are in. The ones that have the hope that one day will be their day to be the one that actually has an active part in their undercover lovers life. They wait patiently for their time to come, they wait for their dinner invitations pre-sex, or they wait to be invited to a family event that they always hear about, see pictures of but never get to attend. Your guy/girl will find ways to turn their shit into sugar and before you know it you are strung out looking like a deer in headlights in full shock when nothing but sex happens.

Once you reach a certain age and you start to meet people in the same age bracket and you find out that they have been married and is a mother or a father yet living the single life no strings attached it will make you wonder if they are damaged to the point of not being able to commit to anything on any level because of their past relationships.

I believe that everyone needs help sometimes and if it means that you have to go back home to momma to find yourself for a little bit of time than that is fine however moving back home with the full plan of staying because it's just easier is not cool for you or for your personal life. The goal is to grow up and out not to grow up and stay. Just think about it for a minute. If you are smart enough to come up with a bull crap story to keep your life private than believe that the person that your selling your shit wrapped in sugar may be smart enough to catch on that your ploy is to use and then toss to the side.

Let's be fair and look at multiple sides. We will say that your dating a guy that tells you from day one that he does not want a relationship however his actions and behavior leads you to believe different because he is overly excessive with his calls, emails and texts, he quickly makes himself a constant in your day, actually inserting himself into it. It would be easy to take that the wrong way and to feel more than you should. It's really false advertisement because remember there are stipulations to your relationship and the stipulation is that you do not get attached because you are nothing more than a past time for the meantime. No intention of long term anything other than a roll in the hay now and again. So know your place and do not dream big, remember you are a past time for the mean time and there are always others. How many times do you want to think back to yourself in those shabby hotel rooms that you would normally not even look in the direction of but because you want to be in his or her space you sacrifice your norm and go with the flow. I say find a different flow because that flow is heading in the direction of no where fast.

If your wondering if you are simply a piece of ass than the answer is clearer than you think.

Let's review:

* The person may or may not tell you upfront that they do not want a committed relationship. However they will ring your phone, send you bunches of texts and shoot you hugs and kisses before you go to sleep at night but remember they do not want a relationship. Confusing huh!

* There is no personal space for you to get to know the them while they are in their own space. No privacy remember they are taking care of mom and you can't go there.

* You speak to them on some level daily but go months without seeing them. That sounds like a person that is only interested in one thing. The one thing that they talk about with you all the time. Just think and you will figure it out. Everyone's answer could be different.

* When you do see one another you do not go out in public. So this means no outside socializing, no outside drinks, no outside dinner, no outside invitations period of any sort and definitely no interaction with their day to day life.

* Much time has passed since seeing one another and they don't even order a meal for you to eat when you get to them. If it sounds like it! They leave before you wake up leaving you in a crusty room on a solo basis and it feels like it! then my love I am sorry to say it but you yes you are a piece of ass and the mother is the cover for your undercover lover.

Peace and Blessings Loves Precious Unique