NOOOO I'm NOT Ready or Am I?

Through the eyes of another I speak from a place that we all know too well. FEAR!! of what's next.

Graduation - True Blues and Smiles.

It is a happy time that is accompanied by a huge sense of completion and relief for the students and parents alike; however there are those out there that are afraid of the next step, afraid for themselves or afraid for their young adult entering the first stages of a true sense of independence and adulthood. It's when they experience what's NEXT.

Fear is inevitable and may be present when the notion of change arises; So I say!!! Live, have faith in yourself and please embrace the next level you.

Pat yourself on the back and say well done me, you made it this far and now onto the next maze. Remember to take it one step at a time because the real world outside of school can be a real maze. The fear sets in when you wonder if you will find your way to the end of the maze where the prize is waiting for you or you may fear that you will get stuck in the maze and deterred by something pretty, shiny, tasty or too tempting to lead you out. So i ask you dear graduate, do you have a plan? Do you know where your yellow brick road will lead you?

Remembering SEVENTEEN

SCREAMING in my own head "I don't want to go, I don't want to leave everything that i have and i don't want to exchange my safety net for everything new, I'm not ready to let go of the routine that i am accustomed too, the security and safety that i have at home and the assurance that my mother or father is going to wake me up in the morning, yelling from the top of the steps. I want to stay at home and play games and wait for dinner to be done, and still that voice of uncertainty in my mind reminds me that putting a fog over logic would only delay me. So i put my cap and gown on and prepare for the ceremony that will make my parents proud and me a nervous wreck.

In anticipation of graduation day i felt like a boulder was sitting on my shoulders and the time clock in my head was counting down the days until i toss my hat in the air saying goodbye to the old and hello to the brand new.

Do you think my mother saw the fear through my smile?

I wonder if she knew that i was terrified of starting over again? I was content with the me that i was and now i felt l like all of the relationships that i had built over my years could be lost the moment we toss those graduation caps. My mind raced with questions: Who i will be in this next faze? Will i be happy, will i feel trapped, will i perform to my highest potential or will i slip into the darkness that brings a highlight to my failures? I wondered if anyone else out there was silently afraid that with friends heading in different directions that the dynamics of their friendships could also change? In my day I was hopeful that if change did come between myself and all that i grew to know it would be for the better; however it is also important to understand that as we grow up we also grow out of a lot of things and sometimes that means that we grow out of people too. Don't be afraid to leave a heavy weight behind.

Some Things Take Practice

All of us have had some practice in moving on to the next in our lives in fact we have been doing it since we were little, going from one grade to the next was the start of our stages into growth and life. All i wanted to do is time travel back to a place time when there was coloring, crayons and learning my ABC'S for homework. I wanted to stop right there and refuse to grow up? Again my mind was SCREAMING what if i lose my friends? What if my friends find someone else to be me for them. Some young adults feel torn between the desire to experience new things and the fear of finding and doing the wrong things. I wanted to know the me inside that I had hidden through elementary, middle and high school, I wanted to know the person that i wasn't yet. So i say don't fear your next step, embrace it and make smart choices, choose life, choose love and always be smart. But for God's sake do not fear the next level, the change in you can only be for the better so prepare for greatness. Put positive vibes into the universe and practice being a better you.

Life Never Waits For You To Get Ready

Dear graduate, things will be different as you take the next step towards adulthood but remember that this is your time to build upon the blueprint of your life, right now your immediate goals are the ideas that you can add to the blueprint however be open to things not being perfect because life is far from perfection.

When you stay ready, you never have to get ready!

When one Door Closes Another One Opens

For the college students that are graduating and getting ready to get into the real world i say congratulations and well done, now it' time to get on with real life. Fear, yea i think we all go through a little fear when we reach the end of anything that we have done or known for just about our entire lives. We are afraid to leave what is constant and consistent in our lives. Some of us want to pack up our entire bedrooms and the walls around it and bring that with us too but understand that this is just another stage and another faze in your life where you must accept the growth that comes with your age. Don't be Scared, be brave; understand that when you are young is when you can do, go and be just about anything you put your mind to. Choices is what we all make in life. What choices will you make in your lifetime? Just as with high school and finishing up college each path will take you to your next level and will eventually take you to a level of self understanding that you can only give yourself if your open to new and exciting things awaiting for you in the future.

Take a chance on yourself GRADUATE

Which one are you?

Some high school graduates may not think college is for them, so be honest with yourself and your parents. If college is not your thing than do not be afraid to talk to your parents, realized or not your parental figures do know a little bit about you. Consider taking up a trade or follow your dreams if they are something that will bring you security in your future.

It's okay to be afraid of leaving what you have known your entire life and for those of you that are so eager to run and jump ship please remember that those that flee often break a leg or two along the way, in life there is a hard way and an easy way. It's your choice to put one foot in front of another and make it happen.

Don't be afraid to think about the what if's

When you feel weak and want to just give up and give in think about the high school students that are graduating and don't have the choice to go to college because their path has been set for them in some form or another. I hurt for them because they may be a product of circumstance and choice was not an option for them. What about those young ladies or young gents that had scholarships to go to colleges and they let 15 minutes of pleasure change their life forever kissing the scholarship goodbye and saying hello to the midnight feedings. Life is funny but so not! One bad choice can certainly lose you more than it can gain you.

Don't be afraid to take a chance on yourself while you aim to be better, stronger and wiser than what you grew up around.

You have to be smart and role with the punches and know that at the end of the day your path was directed by you and you had the leading role in your own play. So don't be afraid to face that woman/man in the mirror when things don't go as planned, and also remember to give yourself that pat on the back when you reach or exceed a personal goal.

Fear is paralyzing. So Brush it off and move onto Next.

Chin up little solider you got this!

Parents talk to your young adults & Young adults please be transparent with your parents. If we know better we can help you better.

Blessings and Best

Precious Unique