He or She is absolutely, unequivocally not into you; well maybe just a bit!

It's simple for your vision to become blurred; Coupled by Wine and Candles and the gift of Gab "The quiet in the candle light gives off the illusion of perfection".

This blog post may or may not apply to some people out there but for those that it does apply too in any way this is for you.

There may come a time in your life when you wonder if someone that you may be dating is really into you or if YOU, yes YOU are just their fly by call for the night; because they know that you will answer the phone, the email, the face book poke or the text that they may send your way.

My advice to you is that you be weary of those people that pop up from your past finding ease in calling you at the drop of a whim, I especially think you should steer clear if you find it difficult to resist this person.

Remember that there is a reason that they are in your past.

Another question that you should be asking yourself is what are they looking for?

Some of us try to act like we are surprised at the outcomes of our so called courtships but let's be real here you have to be with a like minded person in order to accomplish the goals that you set out for. If you are wondering why they are popping in and out of your life then just think back to the past that you shared because it is something there that they are searching for.

If you are reading two different books you will have a different ending.

"With expectations come disappointment"!

I am not saying that it is unrealistic to have expectations i am more so asking you to please make sure that your expectations are realistic in your courtship or you may feel the reality of that disappointment that I was speaking of.

You deserve better than being screwed

by someone that you wanted to trust.

"The Dirty Little Secret"

Is it easy to come out of the shadows when you were always in the dark?

I guess that answer would be for one of the beholders of a dirty little secret. I've heard of so many people selling the dream to their side person about how they will eventually be the main person in their life for it to never happen.

I guess it's easier to believe a lie than to trust the truth huh!

"I'm Not looking for a relationship"

Can i have my cake and more cake and eat it too?

There are more people out there than you know that just do not want to be in a relationship however they want the things that comes along with a relationship. The questions that you should be asking yourself at this point is are you going to be the cake of the week.

Believe a person if they say they are not looking for a relationship. They mean it. You can not change their mind. Don't look at them as a challenge because you may find yourself getting angry when you see that your tactics are not working. Think back to when they told you what they did want and what they did not want out of your time together. Everyone makes choices in life. If their desire does not fit your need than move on. No need in wasting time on people that ultimately do not deserve you.

Some of us reading are still confused so let's ask ourselves a few things together: How long have you been in this persons life? Are you privy to their life outside of you? Do you know their friends or those that they hold close to them? Who are you in their life and who have you been? "Are you their dirty little secret"?

ANSWER

Both examples presented above end with a big no no along with a flashing NO-STOP-DON'T GO If what you are seeking is a meaningful relationship than you want no parts of being anyone's dirty little secret and you damn sure do not want to be anyone's piece of cake for the night.

There is no SECRET and it's really pretty simple

- If a person has an interest in you they will show it, it will not be like pulling teeth you will know because it is evident in their behavior.

- If a person likes you they will initiate getting to know you better and they will not need you but they will want you.

- A person who cares for you creates time where there is no time.

- If you are important to a person than they will value what is important to you.

- If you ask a question and are not pleased with the answer that does not mean that the person did not answer the question.

- Being with you should be a joy not a job.

"I hope that you make the right choice for you; the choice that makes you smile at the end of your day".

Blessings and Bests

Precious Unique