Back to the Basics

Hey Ladies and Gents, I tried to find the perfect blog entry to start with. Something insightful or maybe even comical however something kept bringing me back to the broken frames (people) that keep finding their way into my path and so i can't help but to change the direction of my first post all together.

First and foremost I do not have my degree in social work nor do i have any certifications but think about it! Does life give you certifications for the highs and lows that we experience? I say nope. So i say that to say this; I often run across people in my life that are searching for perfection in what they do in order to show the world and sadly some of those people go to their graves with an idea that never came to fruition. So i say make perfection your ultimate goal however your starting place should be completion.

In other words " nothing comes to a sleeper but a dream". So don't just dream; do! Even if it is not perfect the first time around. Don't let your dreams pass you by because of your fear of judgement.

One of the main reasons that i decided to write this blog was because i found myself running into so many people covered by their pain searching for answers in all of the wrong places. I kept finding myself silently wishing that i could help all of them simultaneously; and we all know that there is no cookie cutter solution for life's issues. So I figured that instead we could work together with a little dialogue and maybe some suggestions or comments from the audience once we get into the nit and grit of our conversations.

The hurts that i am speaking of are not my hurts right now; however i have had my share of hurts and i found out that i needed to go through somethings in order to get through all things. The first step for me was to see where i needed mending and i can honestly say that i am still in recovery for myself. The self recovery that i am speaking about has nothing to do with substance abuse i am speaking of being in recovery for your mind, body, soul, spirit, and for whatever reason you may need it. Only you know that answer.

Many may ask why do i care enough to share my pains and some of the processes i went through in order to find a peace of mind and that is the answer right there. To help others find a peace of mind. Knowledge of self can bring you that clarity and ability to see in true form. The not so funny thing is that although i have tried i can't keep hiding in the shadows. The pain of people is bringing me to the surface so that maybe i can help you in some way or another.

The pressure is on so apart of me feels responsible for offering some sort of guidance to those that feel broken, confused, mentally drained, exhausted with their everyday life. That little voice that walks and talks to me constantly gets louder and louder reminding me that i need to do more, i need to say more, i need to gain a better understanding of my surroundings and my purpose.

Hoarding my hurts and not sharing my victories would be a disadvantage to your growth as well as mine. Sharing is caring.

Here are a ton of questions that may peek your interest if you take the time to explore your answers honestly. You may learn something new about yourself that you can embrace or you may see something bad in yourself that you can do without and work towards change .

Be brave, be honest and ask yourself the questions below:

Who are you when no one is around?

Ask yourself:

• Have you figured out who you want to be when you grow up? or do you find yourself content with who you are today?

• Would you consider yourself a happy person? Or do you suffer high's and low's coupled by an unresolved issue?

• Do you recall the person you were before your name changed to mom or dad?

• Do you find yourself living in a past that has long gone? Yet hinders your ability to move forward?

• Do you feel like life is eating away at your time and there is no me time left for you?

• Are you happy at the reflection that stares back at you in the mirror?

• Do you feel like you are behind in life and or love? Do you feel like you have put your best foot forward and it has been smashed beyond recognition so you have decided to take a back seat to relationships?

• Do you value time and understand that once it's gone it can't be given back? Do you understand that time waits for no man/woman?

• Are you playing second fiddle to someone else's life? Have you noticed the days slip into weeks, as the weeks creep into months and before you know it years have passed? Time for a review.

• Do you find it easy to make the right choices for yourself even if it does not seem right for others? Have you sacrificed yourself for the love of others to feel owed in the end?

• Do you put off today what you can do tomorrow and find that tomorrow goes on and on and on until it eventually your behind and running to play catch up?

• Do you find your day to day duties redundant and boring? Is your relationship exciting and new even though you have years in?

• When you look at yourself do you see success or failure?

• Have you grown to understand your worth as a person? Do you value yourself?

Lot's of questions huh? Yea i know; it all starts with us and where some of the questions may not apply to your life some others may so read them and think about the answers in true form not in disillusion fairy tale form.

If you are searching for the you that you want to be then you have to explore the you that you are and have been. Trust me we are not done here, this is just an introduction to the self exploration blog that will come soon and it will touch on a few of the questions listed above. It's all about self-growth and understanding who we are without all of the extras to focus on.

The reality in it all is that no one person was created perfect, we have cracks, bumps and dents that we would like to have restored and with most restorations there is some demolition. Blessings and all the best while finding your answers. Until the next time "Be true to you".

Best Regards

Precious Unique